ALIWAZA’S ULTIMATE BLACK BUSINESS GIFT GUIDE | GIFTS FOR THE MIND, BODY + SPIRIT IN 2018 + BEYOND

ALIWAZA’S ULTIMATE BLACK BUSINESS GIFT GUIDE | GIFTS FOR THE MIND, BODY + SPIRIT IN 2018 + BEYOND

Find creative gifts produced Black folks for everyone on your list.

GIFTS FOR HER/THEM

MIND

FEATURED

SPIRIT

This list is growing! Want to get on the list before the new year? FILL OUT THIS FORM

Where are you spending your money in 2018? Tell us below!

ALIWAZA’S ULTIMATE GIFT GUIDE | MAGICAL FEEL-GOOD GIFTS FOR HER/THEM

ALIWAZA’S ULTIMATE GIFT GUIDE | MAGICAL FEEL-GOOD GIFTS FOR HER/THEM

A GROWING LIST OF PRODUCTS, SERVICES, FASHION + ACTIVITIES TO MAKE HER SPIRIT SMILE ALL YEAR!

Note: All product photos are credited to their respective websites.

1. MAGICAL PHOTOGRAPHY | NEATSHINYOWL

OUR RAVE

NEATSHINYOWL celebrates the inner and outer beauty of people of color. Don’t wait for a special event to show someone how beautiful they are. Book a just-because shoot.

SHOP HERE for your photogenic queen!

FOLLOW THEM!

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2. MAGICAL NATURAL HAIR + SKIN CARE | THE AFRO HAIR & SKIN CO.

OUR RAVE

Say it with gold! These name plate necklaces and rings are to die for!

SHOP HERE for black girl nostalgia.

FOLLOW THEM!

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3. MAGICAL WOMAN ON CLOTHES | REIGN ENTERTAINMENT CO.

OUR RAVE

Get hand painted, limited custom pieces designed for and by artists of color.

SHOP HERE beautiful custom goodness.

FOLLOW THEM!

4. MAGICAL WIGS + MORE | TONI DALEY

OUR RAVE

Listen. These wigs are durable and natural hair friendly.  My wig fooled everyone I knew!

SHOP HERE for the protective style natural.

FOLLOW THEM!

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5. MAGICAL BACKPACKS | AFRICA ON MY BACK

OUR RAVE

I came across these bags on facebook and now I’m obsessed!

SHOP HERE for the culture!

FOLLOW THEM!

This list is growing! Want to get on the list before the new year? FILL OUT THIS FORM This list is a sub-list of Aliwaza’s Ultimate Black-Owned Business Gift Guide for 2018 and Beyond.

Where are you spending your money in 2018? Tell us below!

 

ALIWAZA’S ULTIMATE GIFT GUIDE | MAGICAL BEAUTY GIFTS FOR HER/THEM

ALIWAZA’S ULTIMATE GIFT GUIDE | MAGICAL BEAUTY GIFTS FOR HER/THEM

A GROWING LIST OF HAIR, SKIN + MAKEUP PRODUCTS TO KEEP HER FINE ALL YEAR!

Note: All product photos are credited to their respective websites.

1. F*CKBOY REPELLENT | BEE-Q-BOX™

OUR RAVE

Bee-Q-Box™ has a vegan and cruelty free way to keep the unwanteds away. I know, right! Genius and fabulous af. Get a #fuckboyfreeglow that does not containe CHILDISH GAMES, SIDE CHICKS, “WE JUST FRIENDS”, “I AIN’T GET YOUR TEXT” & ALSO WORKS AGAINST HATING ASS BROADS.

SHOP HERE for the no-nonsense queen in your life.

FOLLOW THEM!

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2. MAGICAL NATURAL HAIR + SKIN CARE | THE AFRO HAIR & SKIN CO.

OUR RAVE

These lovers of all thngs natural and organinc encourages us to to treat ourselves with kindness, repeat and affirm messages of love to ourselves. Look at that, a beauty company that challenges us to be beautiful internally and externally!

SHOP HERE for holistic get-right with a moisurizing twist.

FOLLOW THEM!

3. MAGICAL BRUSH CLEANER | KOKO BEAUTY ESSENTIALS

OUR RAVE

When a beauty blogger meets beauty products! YOU GO GIRL! When Bryanna realized her skin was experiencing breakouts, she started whipping up her own brush cleaner. Now, she’s serving it up to us in a silver bottle. Can you say, “love”?

SHOP HERE for the makeup guru who is tired of acne!

FOLLOW THEM!

4. MAGICAL HAIRCARE + MORE | ANITA GRANT

OUR RAVE

Anita is serving your curls, face and body. The ingredients she uses are purchased directly from farming communities, partnerships she’s built with fair trade and organic suppliers.

SHOP HERE for the head-to-toe fair trade natural.

FOLLOW THEM!

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5. MAGICAL VEGAN KINKS + CURLS | FLORA & CURL™

OUR RAVE

It takes 26 seconds for cosmetic ingredients to be absorbed from skin into the bloodstream and from your hair shaft to your hair folicle. Flora & Curls  makes each second count by transparently listing every ingredient next to the products in their online store and on the labels. If you know you are sensitive to certain ingredients you can check whether or not they are in the products.

SHOP HERE for the informed natural.

FOLLOW THEM!

6. MAGICAL ASH-BE-GONE | ELLE VIE BODY BUTTER

OUR RAVE

Elle Vie’s butters and body oils only use quality ingredients and is created from – the what? – the soul. Elle understands that women work hardfor their money and dedicates her business to creationg a certain degree of exellence that can’t be ignored.

SHOP HERE for the gift of body butters and oils!

FOLLOW THEM!

6. MAGICAL PROFESSIONAL COSMETICS | THE FACIAL BAR™

OUR RAVE

The Facial Bar™ opened officially January 1, 2017 and has been serving up vegan, botanical loving ingredients, that are sulfate free and paraben free, for every skin type ever since then.

SHOP HERE for the gift of body butters and oils!

FOLLOW THEM!

7. MAGICAL LIPPIES + MORE | GOLD LABEL COSMETICS

OUR RAVE

Gold Label Cosmetics is a cruelty-free, paraben-free color cosmetics company for the beauty enthusiast who seeks opulence and convenience. The founder, Kristen Elise Brown, anwers the call for inclusiveness with beutiful shades for melanated beauties!

SHOP HERE for the gift poppin’ lippies!

FOLLOW THEM!

8. MAGICAL, ALL NATURAL BODY CARE | ASE BODYCARE

OUR RAVE

Ase’ BodyCare started in New York after the owners grew tired of using chemical-filled body products. They decided to start experimenting with natural ingredients in order to make their own body care products; and now their offering them to us!

SHOP HERE for the your chemical free queen!

FOLLOW THEM!

9. MAGICAL ALL BROWN GIRL MAKEUP | VERA MOORE

OUR RAVE

Vera Moore beleives that kincare is a necessity, makeup is an accessory. This company puts skincare above all else while providing quality, professional makeup products.

SHOP HERE for healthy skin and a fabulous beat!

FOLLOW THEM!

10. MAGICAL, PERFECT NUDES | MENTED COSMETICS

OUR RAVE

Still looking for your perfect match? Mented cosmetics carries nude makeup for every skin tone and shade.

SHOP HERE for skin that looks like skin!

FOLLOW THEM!

This list is growing! Want to get on the list before the new year? FILL OUT THIS FORM This list is a sub-list of Aliwaza’s Ultimate Black-Owned Business Gift Guide for 2018 and Beyond.

Where are you spending your money in 2018? Tell us below!

Show Your Cards | Talking Tarot With Queen Sunflower

Show Your Cards | Talking Tarot With Queen Sunflower

 

We sat down for a chat with our sister-friend Ashleigh to learn a thing or two about tarot. Although we met on Instagram, Ashleigh or Queen Sunflower lives and practices tarot right in our backyard. How about that gravity? We loved talking with Queen Sunflower and we know you’ll love her too! Check out what she had to stay about the ever-mysterious art of tarot.

 

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Aliwaza’s: Tell our readers about yourself/your brand. What do you do for a living? What are your hobbies and interests, outside of tarot?

Queen Sunflower: Well, there’s so much to tell! I’ve been reading Tarot for about three years professionally and a total of six years all together. I’m currently in the beauty industry full time while I am finishing my Doula certification in hopes of moving towards that within the next six months. My brand is all about women empowerment. I combined my love for Tarot and spiritual coaching with women empowerment and created my brand. I recently revamped my brand to include all of this so that I can create a platform where I use my gifts to really help open Black women up to their gifts and their spiritual path while overcoming their blockages through each directions of time. 

A: Do you read tarot full time? What sort of services do you provide to clients?

QS: I do not read Tarot full time, but I have plans on working full time reading Tarot very soon. I provide Oracle and Tarot Readings, Spiritual and Personal coaching sessions and Yoni Cleansing products. I also providing emotional and spiritual healing for my clients.

A: How were you drawn to Tarot? How and when did you discover you had this ability? 

QS: I was drawn to Tarot because of a friend. She used to do tarot readings on me and one day I became instantly drawn to her cards and started using the deck and did a reading on her and when I was done, she told me I was extremely accurate with everything I said and started working with me to find out my spiritual gifts and tap into my intuition. 

A: How are you able to read your clients energy, even when you’re not sharing the same space?

QS: Majority of my readings are not done in the same space at all. I’ve done readings for people overseas in various countries. Therefore, the way to do that is learning your gifts. I have channeling and mediumship abilities, so I tap into my clients energy fields and their spirit guides and higher self and receive information from the that way. It gives me the truthful messages, not the messages people want to hear. 

Wow, right?! You can learn more about our new friend Ashleigh on her website www.yoniversetalks.com or you an check out her Instagram @yoniversetalks.

Tell us what you think about tarot below! 

How to Insert Your Yoni Egg: A Simple Guide to Yoni Egg Insertion

How to Insert Your Yoni Egg: A Simple Guide to Yoni Egg Insertion

Last week, I gave you some tips on how to remove your yoni egg. I didn’t lose my mind, y’all. I shared those tips first because I get more messages from people asking, “how do I get it out?” than from people asking, “how do I get it in?” Remember: If I have not covered a subject that you want me to touch on, you can contact me and I will address your question(s) in a blog post as soon as I can. You may also schedule a consultation with me for some personal, less filtered guidance. So Let’s get down to it; shall we?

 

Note: Please do not insert your yoni egg until you are completely comfortable. 

Here Are Some Quick Tips For Inserting Your Yoni Egg (Into Your Vagina)

  1. Prepare your mind and body and egg for yoni egg use.
  2. Warm your clean, charged crystal by rubbing it against your clean skin. Consider massaging your breast and nipples with the egg to stimulate your endocrine system where sexual energy is stored. This action will assist with natural vaginal lubrication.
  3. Gently massage the areas around your vagina until you feel comfortable bringing it closer to your vagina
  4. When You feel like you’ve produced enough lubrication, enter your egg blunt/fat/wide side up. Your egg should go in without resistance or friction.

Note: Some women may opt to use their favorite natural lubricant to make their insertion process easier. Coconut oil is natural, has antibacterial and anti-fungal properties and is relatively inexpensive. 

 

What are some difficulties you have when inserting your yoni egg? Comment below!

 

 

Help! My Yoni Egg is Stuck! An Easy Guide to Removing Your Yoni Egg

Help! My Yoni Egg is Stuck! An Easy Guide to Removing Your Yoni Egg

Yikes!

I’ll try to keep the pleasantries to a minimum since you’re probably in an emergency. So hi, girl!

Your yoni egg is not stuck. It is exactly where it wants to be – doing the work you told it to do. Fortunately, it will come down when it is ready; but, you can rest assured that your crystal is not roaming around your body as it can only travel as far as your cervix.

If you have purchased a yoni egg or sphere and have worked up the nerve and trust to insert it into your body, you should have also embraced the entire process. This includes naturally expelling your crystal. Crystals have the tendency to stick with us until it either completes the job or has made significant progress in its work. I encourage you to trust the process and not be afraid that the crystal you once trusted will betray you. It is completely common that crystals stay in the vagina from a few minutes up to 24 hours and beyond. Do not doubt the process – your process. Don’t worry. Since you are using a crystal that is safe enough for yoni insertion, this does not put you at risk for toxic shock or many other crazy things that happen to vaginas.

With that aside, sometimes you may need or desire to interrupt your session with your egg and expel it earlier than planned. I’ve listed a few reasons why my customers and clients have had to remove their yoni eggs and spheres early.

Why Would You Want Remove Your Yoni Egg?

Some reasons you may need to expel your egg in a hurry include:

  • Expecting your period
  • Possible sex with a person you don’t want to share your egg with (it happens)
  • Visiting your gynecologist
  • Lack of confidence wearing your yoni egg in public (ex: fearing it will fall out)

The list goes on.

When I get these emergency calls, I do my best to calm my client down. It is important that you try to relax so that your pelvic muscles doesn’t contract and create a stronger hold on your crystal.  Your vaginal muscles will continue to tense from stress so make sure you aren’t trying to remove your egg in panic mode.

Here is how To remove Your Yoni egg in a pinch

  1. Wash your hands with a gentle cleanser.
  2. Breathe deeply and relax.
  3. Do a few Kegels to loosen the grip on your egg or wiggle it out of your vagina. Think of the way you would play with a loose tooth,
  4. Squat or sit over the toilet. If you are not wearing underwear and/or squatting over the toilet, make sure you have a hand cupped under your vagina to catch the crystal.
  5. Make rapid contract and release movements with your vagina. You know the ones.
  6. Make one final release.
  7. If the egg needs help leaving the vagina, hook your clean finger around the loosened egg and go up there and get it.
  8. Wash your hands and crystal. Store your crystal in a dark pouch or near your charging station to prepare it for its next use or charging/clearing session.

You may choose to use a yoni safe lubricant to assist with this process.

If you absolutely not willing to  go through all of this, consider buying yoni eggs that have polished, drilled holes. You can insert a vagina safe string into the hole and pull it out when you are ready.

I hope this was helpful! Now make you some tea and go get that egg! Let me know if this has worked for you in the comments below! 

 

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Yoni Eggs Are Dangerous and Toxic? A Practical Guide to Choosing Your Next Yoni Egg Wisely

Yoni Eggs Are Dangerous and Toxic? A Practical Guide to Choosing Your Next Yoni Egg Wisely

 

Gotcha!

I’m glad you’re here, though. Actually, Yoni Eggs are not inherently dangerous or toxic. They are safe for any healthy vagina* to use. Be that as it may, the on and off trendiness of the ancient sacred practice of using crystals for womb wellness has been a catalyst for widespread misinformation about what yoni eggs are — and what they aren’t. Likewise, many practitioners who make yoni eggs available to their customers are often selfish with information; leaving their customers bewildered when they go to buy their second and third eggs from other crystal ladies. More controversially, some people just like yoni eggs, but don’t know what the hell they’re talking about. So, what is the actual danger here? Uneducated “Yoni Egg” purchases made from undereducated sellers. Did you know that only certain crystals and stones are safe for vaginal insertion? Keep reading to learn wtf.

There are a number of terrible things that can happen if you choose the wrong yoni egg. Some women have experienced their crystal rusting after using it in their vaginas or not drying it after a cleansing. Gives a whole new meaning to tired, rusty pus-. Anyway, other crystals can actually dissolve in your vagina. They can literally drown in that pu-. Finally, some crystals are just flat out toxic. I will not insert a pun about it killing the pus-. ( I have no self control.)

So, “How do I avoid the wrong crystals?” you ask. Here is a very quick tip: With the exception of obsidian crystals with a Mohs Hardness of 5.5, you should only only insert Yoni Eggs made of crystals that have a Mohs Hardness of 6.5 and higher. You don’t have to be an expert to do your Googles before your Kegels (although a responsible seller will definitely have or help you researh the information you need with your purchase.) 

The Good News

Before I get to the bad news, here are some crystals that are usually suitable for your yoni. The below crystals can withstand body heat, moisture, extensive cleansing and prolonged submersion.

  • Natural Quartz
  • Amethyst
  • Rose Quartz
  • Jade
  • Most Jaspers
  • Carnelian
  • Obsidian

When buying from a crystal carrier who knows their stuff, your egg — from the list above — should be completely smooth (as opposed to being jagged) and all surface imperfections should be buffed and polished. If there are jagged cuts or crevices and cracks in your egg, do not insert it into your vagina. Use it for decoration as an ethical yoni egg seller will not accept your return for very obvious reasons.

The Bad News

Regrettably, I’ve seen the following toxic crystals sold as yoni eggs.

  • Any dyed crystal  – Some dyes are toxic
  • Angelite – This crystal contains lead
  • Chalcopyrite – This crystal contains sulphur
  • Chrysocolla – This crystal contains copper
  • Fluorite – This crystal contains fluorine and other toxic chemicals
  • Galena – This crystal contains lead
  • Labradorite – This crystal contains aluminum
  • Lazurite – This crystal contains sulphur
  • Malachite – This crystal contains copper.
  • Orpiment – This crystal contains arsenic
  • Rhodochrosite – This crystal contains lead
  • Selenite – When dissolved, this crystal is toxic to the body
  • Serpentine – This crystal creates asbestos in its fibrous form
  • Sodalite – This crystal contains aluminum ( I almost  sold one of these last April and had a “yoni sphere” listed in my store two weeks prior to writing this article)
  • Sunstone – This crystal contains aluminum
  • Tiger’s Eye – Contains asbestos fibers that can break off ( Sold a few no porous versions of these and use one myself. If your egg is broken or porous, throw it out!)
  • Turquoise – This crystal contains copper

You should avoid insertion of the following crystals for various reasons. Some crystals are repeated from the list above.

  • Any cracked or chipped eggs or eggs with unpolished imperfections.
  • Calcite – This crystal will dissolve over time
  • Chalcedony – This crystal is porous and will carry bacteria
  • Hematite (and other metallic crystals) – This crystal oxidizes with moisture and is prone to rusting
  • Pyrite – This crystal can convert to sulfuric acid
  • Rutilated Quartz – The fibers of this crystal could be rough or break off. This crystal can also carry bacteria
  • Selenite – This crystal will dissolve in moisture and is easily broken
  • Tourmalinated Quartz – This crystal can be rough and harbor bacteria

Incidentally, I posted a very short version of this article two years ago and upset a lot (a few. I’m not that poppin’) of veteran Yoni Egg sellers and users. They blocked me on Instagram, y’all. If you’ve been rockin with me from the beginning, you know how skimpy it was. I have rewritten this article because my knowledge has expanded (and is expanding every day). Whether you are an egg buyer or an egg seller, I hope to expand or encourage you to expand your knowledge as well; and hope that you will respectfully check me and update me on any missed information (if and when you see fit.)

The long and short of it is: There are other important things you must consider outside of beauty and energetic compatibility.  Be wary of your Yoni Eggs. Be wary of the education and intentions of your seller/gifter. Do your own Googles. It’s free. Share your yoni egg story at the bottom of this page!
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7 YouTubers Who Have Helped Me Unlearn Self Fat-Shaming

7 YouTubers Who Have Helped Me Unlearn Self Fat-Shaming

One year ago I was 130 lbs. Today I am 5’4 and 162 lbs. I’ve managed to pack on 32 lbs of fat in just 365 days. WTF. My weight has fluctuated my entire life. Now that I am 27 and at my largest, I am finding it increasingly difficult to love my reflection and own my new body. Who can blame me? Everytime I turn on the interwebs and click on the YouTube, I am flooded with new ways to become skinny.

Don’t get me wrong; I love a good workout, meal plan, fast, diet tea as much as the next fit chick, but, those things fail to motivate me when I’ve fallen off the fit girl wagon. Getting in shape and staying in shape are two of the hardest things I’ve ever done (over and over again). It’s comforting to hear a reassuring voice when I can’t be one to myself. I am learning to love my thickness because it’s mine! Will I stop working toward a healthier body? Absolutely not. However, thanks to this inspirational bunch, I will not shame myself into a thinner version of me. 

Here are 7 YouTubers that helped me unlearn Self Fat-Shaming

1. Scola Dondo

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I’ve been following this UK based YouTuber for a really long time. I was so proud of her weight loss and lived for her fitness tips and tricks. Now that she’s sporting a thicker body due to hypothyroidism, I’m so blessed to be on the receiving end of her beautiful body positive message. If I could swoon over her new body, I could certainly learn to love mine more.

2. Withney Denis

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I stumbled upon Whitney's open and honest video a few months ago. I was completely floored by her vulnerability and light-hearted candor. She even inspired me to record my own (short lived) weight loss journey. Besides being extremely gorgeous, her optimism about getting in shape makes me smile. Her reasoning for getting in shape are so relatable. I am so glad that she began sharing her weight loss journey. She hasn't posted in the while, but I am so grateful for what she has posted.

3. Day1 Million

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Summer lost 210 lbs naturally, so, I'm here to listen to whatever she has to say. She is not only about the aesthetics of weight loss; she also focuses on getting your mind right. Although all of her ten tips in this video are phenomenal, the most important tip is number five and seven. She's holistic health excellence!

4. Yanie Redd

Pictured Carla S.

Body positivity isn't all about frolicking through sunflower fields and hugging your fat licking ice cream. Body positivity is owning your look and learning how to work it.

No one ever learned me on the wonders of thickness. Sure, all the women in my family got back,,.and front...and sides, but, there was no official initiation or training session on being thick, having fat, or embracing my curves. Yanie has taken it upon herself to bless us with an owner's manual for curvy bodies. I feel so much better now that I'm handling my scandal.

5. Jaz Jackson

Pictured Carla S.

Jaz wanted to heal mentally, physically and spiritually. Naturally, through working on her WHOLE self. Though she lives with depression (and subsequently stress eating), she was able to healthily drop 50 lbs (at the time of this video) by reclaiming control over her life. Jaz discusses why and how she broke the vicious cycle of depression and overeating. Her motivational pep talk to herself is a pep talk to us all.

6. Danielle from Hissyfit

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First of all, the name of this series on her channel just gives me all the life! Please know that I will continue to Stan for Fat and Fly AF even when I am skinny and fly af. Danielle's spirited commentary on body positivity truly makes my rolls jiggle. Check her out here.

7. Edyn Jacks

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She's right! We should be able to live our lives and love ourselves the entire way. Wanting to lose weight as a fat girl does not mean I hate myself. My knees hurt when I run. I'd like for that to stop. Bye.

A few days ago, I was so afraid to call myself the "F" word. Today I am happy to be fine, fabulous and a little fat. Oh, but, I'm working on it and loving myself all the way! Tell us your story about unlearning self-shaming (fat or otherwise).

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7 Habits of Fucklessly Happy People…Who Happen to Live with Depression + Anxiety

7 Habits of Fucklessly Happy People…Who Happen to Live with Depression + Anxiety

Don’t you hate it when you say, “I’m feeling kinda down” or “I’m just a little depressed” and someone hits you with that “All you have to do is…” nonsense? Me too. The obvious truth is: if taking those thoughtless suggestions were all we had to do, we’d all be tripping over our own damn happiness. 

Now, look. One thing I discovered on my “journey to happiness” was that worrying about being happy was worrying, nonetheless. Likewise, mourning past happiness stressed me out even further. I eventually started giving minimal fucks and accidentally discovered the secret to creating my own happiness.

Here are 7 Happy habits I was able to develop whilst being fuckless, Depressed anD Anxious.

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1. I Practiced Gratitude: Focused on the positive.

Positivity is relative, so, when I am given the suggestion to focus on it, I tend to short circuit. Sometimes asking someone to focus on the positive is a subtle way of telling them to ignore pressing issues like bills, assignments and other shitty responsibilities. Incorporating deliberate gratitude into your speech and actions is actually more positivity-focused than trying to focus on being positive. 

Try Saying: I’m thankful for another healthy day on this earth. I am fortunate for two healthy parents.

At least I have my health. My parents could be dead, but, they aren’t.

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2. I Found My Thinking Place: I Meditated.

Meditation is actually really good advice and is almost synonamous to finding your thinking place. But, when an anxious or depressed person hears “meditate,” their mind automatically focuses on the “how.” Contrary to popular belief, meditation should allow for sorting through one’s thoughts and then freeing oneself of them. Anxious and depressed people tend to place a huge focus on the latter and try extra hard to outrun their minds instead of reprogramming it. Find out where your best thinking place is. This may or may not involve candles, dried herbs and chanting. My thinking place is the toilet (unashamed). Remember, you have to actually have a thought in order to work on reprogramming your mind to think differently. So if you can not “empty your mind” at first, it will come with practice.

Try Saying: I’m going to (insert specific activity that allows you to stop, think and reprogram).

Im going to meditate tonight.

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3. I Practiced My Smile: I did fun shit.

When I’m feeling like shit, dragging myself out of the house make me feel like…a pile of shit in a public place. A lot of people that have not dealt with anxiety or depression will insist that “you must get out and mix and mingle. See and be seen. Your loneliness is causing you to blah, blah, blah.” Actually, the last thing any of us wants to do is parade our mental illness around at the club or bowling alley. What has been more helpful to me over the years is practicing my smile. Besides laughing at myself for looking like a complete jerk, smiling triggers actual positive thoughts (see point one). Smiling forces you to react/respond on your own terms. This is a great alternative to bawling when someone offers you fries at the bowling alley.

Try: Smiling in the mirror and making your cheeks touch your eyes until you have a really good cry, hearty laugh, or both.

Put on your best clothes to force yourself to have fun when you feel like hot molten trash.

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4. Helped Someone: Volunteered.

One thing that caused my unhappiness was feeling useless. Sometimes, the world seems so big and it makes us feel so small. Guess what. The world is big, and we are small, so, when we go out to volunteer in hopes of making a huge difference, we are often supremely let down. Helping gives us that perfect balance of selflessness and superiority that we need to feel like useful humans. Being an asset to a single person, place or thing at a time is another way I’ve created my own happiness and  found a way to responsibly give less fucks.

Try: Helping your sibling tie a tie, watering your plants, leaving your table at Wendy’s free of debris. Work your way up to being a bigger asset.

Community service.

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5. Identified My Sleep-Wake Cycle and Abided By It: Got more sleep.

You cannot fix everything with sleep. However, knowing when to go to sleep is key.

Try: Resting when you need to.

Catching up on sleep.

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6. Make Deliberate Movements: Work Out.

If it isn’t your natural, go-to, feel-good thing, working out is scary af. Working out helps me get my mind right and significantly boosts my mood, however, it took me a while to get here. I start out with small deliberate movements. It allows me to go on missions I can actually accomplish.

Try: Getting three meals in. This requires you to go get food from your kitchen or the store. It is deliberate ant the food is a physical representation of your accomplishment.

Planning a work out.

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7. Planned a Trip: Traveled.

I am far to broke to go everywhere I want to go, but, that does not stop me from planning trips. Planning out full trips has helped me keep my sanity. I have serious wanderlust and a hilarious bank account. LOL. It actually doesn’t have to be a trip. Planning anything gives me something to look forward to and a place to focus my energy. I’ve actually gotten a chance to take some of the trips I’ve planned in my head.

Try: Planning something and marking it on your calender.

Running from your situation.

What are some things you do to promote fuckless happiness when anxiety and depression are a thing? Let us know in the comments or submit your own story!

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