One year ago I was 130 lbs. Today I am 5’4 and 162 lbs. I’ve managed to pack on 32 lbs of fat in just 365 days. WTF. My weight has fluctuated my entire life. Now that I am 27 and at my largest, I am finding it increasingly difficult to love my reflection and own my new body. Who can blame me? Everytime I turn on the interwebs and click on the YouTube, I am flooded with new ways to become skinny.
Don’t get me wrong; I love a good workout, meal plan, fast, diet tea as much as the next fit chick, but, those things fail to motivate me when I’ve fallen off the fit girl wagon. Getting in shape and staying in shape are two of the hardest things I’ve ever done (over and over again). It’s comforting to hear a reassuring voice when I can’t be one to myself. I am learning to love my thickness because it’s mine! Will I stop working toward a healthier body? Absolutely not. However, thanks to this inspirational bunch, I will not shame myself into a thinner version of me.
Here are 7 YouTubers that helped me unlearn Self Fat-Shaming
1. Scola Dondo
I’ve been following this UK based YouTuber for a really long time. I was so proud of her weight loss and lived for her fitness tips and tricks. Now that she’s sporting a thicker body due to hypothyroidism, I’m so blessed to be on the receiving end of her beautiful body positive message. If I could swoon over her new body, I could certainly learn to love mine more.
2. Withney Denis
I stumbled upon Whitney's open and honest video a few months ago. I was completely floored by her vulnerability and light-hearted candor. She even inspired me to record my own (short lived) weight loss journey. Besides being extremely gorgeous, her optimism about getting in shape makes me smile. Her reasoning for getting in shape are so relatable. I am so glad that she began sharing her weight loss journey. She hasn't posted in the while, but I am so grateful for what she has posted.
3. Day1 Million
Summer lost 210 lbs naturally, so, I'm here to listen to whatever she has to say. She is not only about the aesthetics of weight loss; she also focuses on getting your mind right. Although all of her ten tips in this video are phenomenal, the most important tip is number five and seven. She's holistic health excellence!
4. Yanie Redd
Body positivity isn't all about frolicking through sunflower fields and hugging your fat licking ice cream. Body positivity is owning your look and learning how to work it.
No one ever learned me on the wonders of thickness. Sure, all the women in my family got back,,.and front...and sides, but, there was no official initiation or training session on being thick, having fat, or embracing my curves. Yanie has taken it upon herself to bless us with an owner's manual for curvy bodies. I feel so much better now that I'm handling my scandal.
5. Jaz Jackson
Jaz wanted to heal mentally, physically and spiritually. Naturally, through working on her WHOLE self. Though she lives with depression (and subsequently stress eating), she was able to healthily drop 50 lbs (at the time of this video) by reclaiming control over her life. Jaz discusses why and how she broke the vicious cycle of depression and overeating. Her motivational pep talk to herself is a pep talk to us all.
6. Danielle from Hissyfit
First of all, the name of this series on her channel just gives me all the life! Please know that I will continue to Stan for Fat and Fly AF even when I am skinny and fly af. Danielle's spirited commentary on body positivity truly makes my rolls jiggle. Check her out here.
7. Edyn Jacks
She's right! We should be able to live our lives and love ourselves the entire way. Wanting to lose weight as a fat girl does not mean I hate myself. My knees hurt when I run. I'd like for that to stop. Bye.
A few days ago, I was so afraid to call myself the "F" word. Today I am happy to be fine, fabulous and a little fat. Oh, but, I'm working on it and loving myself all the way! Tell us your story about unlearning self-shaming (fat or otherwise).